The thoughts of a doula...
The thoughts of a doula...
It's finally here! After a long 10 years after the last movie, the latest movie in the series has been released. Sitting here watching the previous movies in order of story line with my children, we are preparing for our time to see the latest movie. Considering the first movie ever made came out when I was a 1 year old, it has been a part of my life as long as I can remember. The waiting is exciting, and nerve wracking as we hope nobody spoils the movie for us. We hope the movie holds up to the hype, and it is just as amazing as the previous movies.
But what if it isn't? What if we see it, and are disappointed? What if we build the event up so high in our mind that no movie could ever live up to it? We run that risk when we anticipate such an event. What would we do it that happens? What does this all have to do with your birth?
Just like a long awaited movie, the arrival of a baby is filled with anticipation, excitement, and nerves. We build up the big day in our minds, and picture what will happen and exactly how it will be at that moment when we meet our new baby. But what if it isn't how we pictured? What if the birth doesn't go as planned? What if the process isn't as smooth as we imagined? What if the baby isn't exactly how we pictured? What then?
Even if things don't go as planned you can still have an amazing experience. Try to go into your birth without any pre-conceived ideas of how things will go, or how your baby will look/act. We all get that perfect picture in our heads, which can lead to disappointment if things don't go perfectly. When we place the process so highly in our minds that it can direct our feelings about our birth, we may never be truly satisfied. If you plan for a natural birth and end up with an induction, or hope for a home birth and have a c-section, it may be truly disappointing and lead to bad feelings about your birth. In the same way, if we do get the natural birth or home birth that is planned, we may still come away feeling the event was less than perfect if we built it up so high in our minds. Accept that whatever will happen is how your birth will go. We can not always control exactly how the process will occur, and if we try to picture it and plan it out, we risk letting ourselves down. Bring an open mind to your experience. That is the best thing you can pack to prepare for your birth.
I will take my open mind to the movie when our family does finally see Star Wars: The Force Awakens. Hopefully, we will not be let down, but also pleasantly surprised with the whole experience.
Thanksgiving is behind us and Christmas is right around the corner. Everywhere I look, anticipation of the upcoming holidays is around us. In every child's eyes you will see impatience and awe as they await the day when they will finally get to open up the packages under the tree and see what they have received. Every year it is the same thing, we must wait until the right time to see what magical item we have received.
Unfortunately, this time of year does not always allow for patience for babies to come at the right time.
Due to care-givers not wanting to miss out on their own family celebrations, families wanting the new little one home for the holiday, or simply because of the additional tax break involved with delivering prior to Jan. 1st, more and more babies are being induced for non-medical reasons (See info here). Bringing baby home a few days to a couple weeks early may not seem like a big deal, however according to the March of Dimes, inducing for non-medical reasons has led to a large uptick of late-preterm births which can cause more medical concerns for the baby. In addition, induction of labor can make a much more difficult labor for the mother and for the baby (see here).
If you are considering an induction, or your care-provider is bringing the topic up, make sure you know all your options. Ask lots of questions including:
Is this induction medically necessary?
What are the risks to me and my baby during the induction? (there are always risks)
What are the risks to me and my baby if we choose to not be induced yet?
What are the alternatives to being induced?
What medications/methods will be implemented to induce me, and what are the risks?
What alternatives methods are there, and what are the risks with each one?
By asking questions you will be more prepared for your induction if it is truly medically necessary, or you will be more informed to be able to comfortably decline an unnecessary induction. Also, do some research on what your care provider is telling you as the medical reason for induction. Find out about your Bishop Score here, adequate amniotic fluid levels here, baby size estimations here, and safety of late-preterm delivery of babies here.
Just as we must constantly remind children that they need to wait until Christmas day to open their presents, the best thing we can do for our babies and for mothers, is to wait until baby is ready to be born. The waiting can sometimes be frustrating, but the end result of having a healthy mother and baby is well worth the small wait.